ONLINE EMDR INTENSIVES ACROSS CA, HI, & WA
THERAPY for MOMS IN THOUSAND OAKS, CA
You’re trying so hard to get everything right, but it still feels like you’re failing.
Before you even get out of bed, it’s all about everything you need to do—and everything you might get wrong. (Not to mention the kids are already operating at their energy level 100 before the sun is even up.)
Throughout the day, it might look like:
Making a simple decision—what to feed them, how to respond, what to do next—and immediately second-guessing yourself, wondering if you’re getting it wrong
You open up Google (again) to search things like “how much milk should a toddler drink,” “is it bad if my baby fell,” or “am I ruining my child”
You snap at your kids in a moment of overwhelm—and then spend all of naptime replaying it in your head
You see another mom at the park doing it “better” and feel that pit in your stomach
You finally sit down for a second, only to have to get up to grab a Band-Aid, a juice box, or a toy—any sort of relaxation just doesn’t exist
There’s never really a break, is there?
By the end of the day, you’re completely drained—not just from taking care of your kids or balancing work between the endless to-do lists, but from carrying the weight of every thought, every decision, and every “what if.”
And then you’re counting down to bedtime again…and feeling guilty for it. You love your kid more than anything—which somehow makes all of this feel even heavier.
“I SHOULD BE better AT THIS.”
“WHY DOES THIS FEEL so much harder FOR ME?”
“I JUST DON’T feel like myself ANYMORE.”
This is where things can actually start to shift for moms.
EMDR intensives are designed to go beyond talking about your struggles—and actually resolve what’s underneath them. Instead of spending months (or years) managing symptoms…
We focus directly on the root.
This is about addressing the underlying memories, experiences, and beliefs fueling the anxiety, the guilt, and the constant feeling of not being enough in your role as a mom. It’s the kind of deep, focused work that helps your brain finally process what it’s been holding onto (for far too long) so you can respond differently in your life now.
WHAT THIS WORK LOOKS LIKE
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We work together to get to the root of where that critical voice came from and why everything always feels so high-stakes or all-or-nothing.
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Every moment doesn’t have to feel like an emergency, despite how chaotic life feels. As we dive deeper into EMDR, you can spiral less, find more calm, and feel peace amid your busy day-to-day.
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We help your brain fully process the experiences it’s still reacting to—like early moments from childhood that shaped your self-doubt or parts of your birth or postpartum experience that still feel unresolved—so they stop driving how you think, feel, and respond as a mom.
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Instead of constantly feeling like you’re failing or like you “should be doing better,” your inner voice starts to recognize: “This is hard—and I’m handling it.” “I’m a good mom, even when it’s messy.”
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It’s possible to make decisions without overthinking everything—even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. As you dive deeper into your healing, you can begin to stand confidently in your choices and tap into more self-assured energy.
This isn’t “learning how to be a better mom.”
We’re healing what’s getting in the way of you feeling like one.
Questions?
FAQs
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Comparison often becomes a way of trying to figure out if you’re “doing it right.” But instead of helping, it tends to reinforce the belief that you’re not enough. In an EMDR intensive, we explore where that pressure comes from and target the experiences that shaped that belief so it stops feeling so automatic. As those patterns shift, you can reconnect with your own instincts and feel more confident in your unique way of being a mom.
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Motherhood has a way of activating old experiences—especially if you didn’t have the kind of support or modeling you needed growing up. You might notice old fears, patterns, or even your parents’ voice showing up in how you think or react. This is actually very common, and an EMDR intensive can help you process those experiences so you’re not parenting from them.
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If your birth experience felt scary, overwhelming, or not at all what you expected, it makes sense that something still feels unsettled. Birth trauma causes many moms to carry lingering anxiety, intrusive thoughts, or a sense of being “on edge,” months (sometimes years) later—and wonder why they can’t just move on. EMDR intensives help your nervous system fully process what happened so you can feel more present, safe, and finally like yourself again, instead of feeling stuck in that experience.
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EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a therapy method that helps your brain process and heal from distressing experiences—like childhood wounds, birth trauma, or moments that shaped your self-belief as a mom. Instead of just talking about what’s hard, EMDR helps replace the underlying beliefs (like “I’m not good enough”) with more supportive ones like “I’m capable” and “I can handle this.” You can learn more about my approach with EMDR here.
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Working with moms is a central focus of my practice. I support women who are navigating the emotional weight and challenges of motherhood—feeling overwhelmed, anxious, stuck in self-doubt, or worried they’re not doing enough or getting it “right.” As a mom myself, I also understand firsthand how intense this season can be and how easy it is to lose yourself while trying to take care of everyone else.
Many of the moms I work with are also noticing how their own childhood experiences or a difficult birth are impacting how they feel and show up day-to-day. Along with talk therapy, I’m trained in EMDR, which allows us to go deeper—helping you process those underlying experiences and shift the beliefs that keep you stuck in patterns of guilt, pressure, or feeling like you’re not enough. My goal is to help you feel more grounded, more confident in yourself, and more able to enjoy your role as a mom without constantly questioning or criticizing yourself along the way.
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It’s hard to feel present as a mom when you’re regularly dealing with cycles of anxiety, self-criticism, and pressure—even though there are so many moments you want to enjoy. EMDR intensives help quiet that internal noise by addressing what’s underneath it. As those patterns shift, you can feel more connected, more intentional about how you show up as a mom, and more able to notice and enjoy time with your child, rather than just pushing through to bedtime.